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i believe that its all about control. traditionally its the man who is in control(asking a girl out, taking her out, etc) while the woman is tradionally expected to wait for the man to perform this role.
in a bisexual setting, i think that there is a sense of equallity. they are both on the same playing field so to speak. nobody has this tradional sense of "control" so they are likely to be more free and open with their sexuality. i think theres a certain degree of subconscious intimidation with dealing with a man, that isn't there when dealing with another woman.
this makes sense to me, because you don't often see this type of behavior between bisexual men, they are both expected to be the ones in control, so while they are on equal footing, there is some confusion as to who is suppost to be doing what.
i think this changes when dealing with a situation like gilda described in the gay community. when they assign themselves traditional roles, they are in a sense assigning who has the control. which i think is why you won't see a fem approach a butch.
people don't respond well to force, especially when their sexuality is involved. just by being male, your implying force. which can hold up the process.. between two women, neither one is seen as the one with control, so neither one has any force, which allows things to progress much smoother.
in the case of a hetro woman, approaching a hetro male. the sense of control, beyond the initial approach, still lies with the man. beyond the initial approach, neither of their roles change. the man still takes the lady out, i've never seen a case of the woman picking the man up, deciding on a restraunt, and paying for dinner, these are traditionally the man's duties. so essentially, control doesn't change.
this is only what makes sense to me, i'm certainly not qualified to say that this is in any degree correct. this is only what i believe most likely to be the case... so don't shoot me :P
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