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Originally Posted by c172g
The thing that keeps us together is our ability to discuss it without having to strangle each other and our commitment that we made to each other. I feel like I married my ideal mate, and we work at our marriage every day. In turn, every day is better than the last.
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That is what will keep people together, married or not. Quadro and I were together almost 8 years, living together for around 3 years, before getting married last October. I have to agree with other posts - marriage is only what you make of it, and so is living together.
The most important point I can make is: be on the same level as your partner whether you are cohabitating or marrying or buying a house or whatever. I know that we got married cause we're mushy and we just plain wanted to; I know neither of us are ready for kids, but we're open to the idea of having them LATER; I know we're both moving towards buying a place; basically, I know we're on the same wavelength. It wouldn't matter if we had lived together only casually, as long as that's all either one of us wanted.
You can have what you want, you just have to communicate what you want to get it.