I would say after the first year (as stated above we didn't live together first) things might have gotten a little routine for a while. I had quit smoking before we got married & like an idiot started up again, but tried to hide it from my wife, so I was always looking for an excuse to leave the house to go smoke (drive around, smoke cigarette, chew lots of gum). In addition, I travelled about 25 weekends a year for business, so I would leave Thursday and wouldn't be home until Monday every other weekend pretty much. That didn't leave a lot of time for the two of us. We didn't fight all the time or anything, but we were both very busy. She had activities with the girls, I played hockey, pool, etc. We were both in our 20's and I guess at that time of your life that's the way things are, you get involved in a lot.
I would say it was probably like that the first four or five years we were married. In 2000 we had our first child, and ever since we have really grown together as a couple and as a family. The last five years have been the best of our time together, but the previous eight weren't by any means bad or unenjoyable. I think back to when we first started dating & everyone knows the buzz inside you during that first year or two.
I guess I feel that our marriage is going in exactly the right direction, we both appreciate each other more every day. What more could you ask for?
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