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Originally Posted by abaya
Hmm, I tend to agree with you but then I read TFP and hear about all these couples who really do seem to get along like peas and carrots (maybe even second marriages, but still, a remarkable number of TFP'ers seem to be happily married or in a happy long-term committed relationship). And I wonder if you guys would say you have an "easy" marriage out there... if so, why?
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I maybe misled you by saying we didn't have an "easy" marriage. My wife & I get along great. We rarely fight (probably a registerable argument once every six months tops).
I guess I'm trying to say you can't take the other person for granted. While you are married and live together, many people get into a routine. We try to avoid that. We go out without the kids once every week or so, just to be by ourselves without distractions. We do things for each other to keep our lives fun & interesting. I send her flowers at work once in a while, instead of just on valentine's day. You can't just plant the ring, go to work every day, come home, eat dinner, watch TV, kiss each other goodnight & go to bed. It takes effort to stay out of the "routine" many couples find themselves in.