Thanks all of you for your encouragement. He's been struggling with this for 6 years from when we first discovered it. Technically he is not a blood relative but they have been so close to our family for so many years that we've considered them family and called them Aunt and Uncle. They attend all our family gatherings and we see them often and he will sorely be missed. One of his last congitive moments was at our Thanksgiving dinner at our house this past year. Everyone was here and his words were "I'm thankful for my wonderful wife." I recorded it in an album along with other notes to bring out next Thanksgiving. I know next year will be bitter sweet but it was good for everyone to have a moment like that to remember him by since some of them won't really have any contact with him now until he passes away. As for medicating him - one positive point is that his mind is already gone. He has completely stopped talking or really communicating besides pointing if he wants something that he's fixated on. Medicating him will not prevent him from doing anything at this point besides hurting himself or anyone else. I am, in a sense, relieved for my Aunt because I've seen it pull her down health-wise and emotionally. It will be a big burden off her shoulders and perhaps she can enjoy some more of her own life. She has already dedicated more than 10 years total to caring for her mother, who died of Alzheimers only about 8 years ago and then caring for her husband for so long.
Quote:
|
Originally Posted by Astrocloud
I would suggest that you get good legal advice for his care as well. Depending on where you live... LTC can cost upwards of 600 a day. Medicare has got your back though so (again, depending on where you live) look into the laws governing the care of an adult LTC patient.
|
Thank you. They have already realized the cost of the medications and care. They've gotten a lot of help and are not in trouble financially.
My mother is fairly well versed in a lot of the legal things regarding in home care, long term care, medical insurance and such. She and my Aunt (who is in her mid 70's) just went to the lawyers a couple weeks ago to name my Mom as executor of Uncle and Aunt's estate. Some time ago they already drew up their living wills so those things are in place. Their two children won't be much involved. One has already gone over some legal things with my Mom and the other disappeared 2 years ago and hasn't been heard from since.
__________________
"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma.
