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Originally Posted by c172g
That being said, I'll also add that I would never say my wife & I have an "easy" marriage...I don't think there is such a thing.
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Hmm, I tend to agree with you but then I read TFP and hear about all these couples who really do seem to get along like peas and carrots (maybe even second marriages, but still, a remarkable number of TFP'ers seem to be happily married or in a happy long-term committed relationship). And I wonder if you guys would say you have an "easy" marriage out there... if so, why?
Keeping it on topic: Did you "easy" marriage folks live together first, which made it easier once you actually got married? Sometimes I imagine that if two people come from very different backgrounds (ethnicities, social class, education level, etc), they need that time to live together and sort of wear each other down (sanding off the edges?) in terms of living style before things get "easy." Of course, this could happen the first few years of marriage, too. Thoughts?
To me, marriage is
always going to be hard work, just like any relationship that is worth keeping... but maybe I'm just cynical.