I have always thought that if I move in with someone who I am in a relationship with, then it's a pretty serious step to take, and I don't take it as a temporary thing. I take it because I can genuinely see us being together for a long time. I would never marry before living with someone, that's insane. What if you really can't get on in a house together, what then? You're stuck? No, I need a test-drive, as someone said, first.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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