Janey

I really really have to agree with shakran. Unfortunately Vic, you have been put in the hard and responsible position, because nobody else is stepping up. Stick to your guns, you will see in about 10 years, your daughter's thinking will kick into place. right now she is a vindictive child who doesn't realize that you are there to ensure that the future works out for her.

Parents are not supposed to be their children's buddies. You will have to make hard decisions. The hard truth is, for some reason your daughter fell under the thrall of an adult, who should have known better, and for whatever reason found her to be an accessible target. This is the reason for the laws in the first place.

Your job as the parent and guardian is to ensure that your daughter's well being is taken care of. Actually, her mother's lack of over-sight is almost criminal in itself. she has compromised your daughter's ability to continue her education past high school, and therefore prevented her from being able to support her new family with a well paying job. Heaven knows if the father of the baby will be around (voluntarily) in 5 yrs time if there is no committment (legal or otherwise).

You may have room to manoeuvre emotionally (i.e. how you state your case: i notice that teenagers are especially susceptible to tone of voice, and tend to be emotional), but the facts are, she has a baby, he is responsible, she is a child, he is an adult. He should be made responsible for his actions at all levels, and she should think it through.


(rant finished. - I apologize for comming off as morally indignant, but i have a hard time accepting the immaturity of women, who ruin it for those of us who strive to be independant in this world)