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Well I agree with both Sugar and veruca... that's why I used to think it was a bad idea, because the whole premise of living together is usually this is temporary, let's see what happens as opposed to, I love you and want to wake up with you every day for the rest of our lives, no matter how much work that takes and no matter how many compromises we have to make (which is a summary of marriage vows, basically). And it's that process of learning to communicate and compromise that makes the marriage, because you are basically stuck together and have to learn to live with each other... no way out (other than messy divorce).
But then I started thinking, isn't it a good idea to do the whole test-drive thing? I lived together with my bf for 5 months and nearly broke up with him because we weren't ready to be that committed, but at the same time, I didn't break up with him because in my mind, we were sort of (emotionally?) married, in a way. Luckily the situation was temporary (he needed a place to stay), so now we're living apart again, but the question still remains... to live together first, or not? I didn't want to abandon ship unless it was the absolute last option, and I think he saw things the same way, so we were saved by that ... love and commitment. Can you have these things without being married? Or is that just our human perception of things?
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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