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Perhaps it was being at a distance that made things better when you were in the long distance phase of the relationship. That can add an incentive to make an extra effort. Being closer, you may expect things to be easier, and when they aren't it get's frustrating. It does sound as if things have turned sour in this relationship, but it always helps to "have the talk".
Get together with no other reason than to talk with her, and tell her how you feel and why you feel that way. Speak calmly, and without anger or bitterness. When you do, share your feelings without assessing blame. Do it like this: I feel _______ when you / we / I do ________.
For example: I'm disappointed when I call and you aren't home, and it makes me feel distant when you don't return my calls.
When she responds, echo her response back at her to show her that you are actually listening: I understand that you weren't able to return my call that night because it was too late and you didn't want to wake, me, but I still feel frustrated when you don't return my calls.
Now it sounds like maybe this relationship has just reached the point at which you've grown apart, and if that's so, you need to make a clean break. Leaving town gives you both a good excuse for that, a good point at which to find some closure. If so, use it for that, but try to end the relationship on friendly terms. You'll thank yourself later.
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