go to another gyno, pronto- call up ones in your area to see if they can take your wife ASAP so she can talk to one of them- i'm sure if you tell the person on the other end of the phone why you need to see another gyno, they'll be accomidating. DO NOT have your wife start this new pill- with the issues that she's having who knows what effect it will have, esp since your ass of an OBGYN didn't seem to care at all. Perhaps even have your wife go off of BC completely for a few months to see if that helps with the hormone thing, instead of just jumping from pill to pill. Let her body settle.
Also, I would suggest calling up this very rude doctor and telling them that you'd like to pull your record from their office, and that you will not be coming back to them for treatment nor will you be recommending anyone to their office. You have the right to get to your medical records, you just have to sign a release form. If you are met with resistance, be stubborn. You're money walking through their door, and if they treat you like crap, well, you can take yourself somewhere else!
Good job on trying to get this sorted out! Be supportive and remind your wife that the DOCTOR has the problem in this situation, NOT HER!!

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