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Originally Posted by Wax_off
As maleficent said, be prepared and don't take no for an answer. When my ex went in for the first few times they did some tests, told her nothing was wrong and that everything would clear up by itself. BULLSHIT! I know it's sometimes hard to stand up for yourself when you're young, but this is unbelievably important to you, your health and your relationship.
#1 tip, get educated. As I said in my earlier post, most ob/gyns know fuck all about these kinds of problems. There's some chance that you'll have to educate your doctor. Buy that book. Hell, I'll buy it for you, just let me know where to send it. Start searching the web. There are other women out there with similar problems and help is available. You are not alone in this.
If I seem pissed about this, it's because I am. I'd hate to see anyone elses relationship go down the drain because of the ignorance of the medical community and people in general.
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Thank you for your concern, really. Do you think that my doctor would allow nwlinkvxd to come in with me? I will try to make sure my doctor doesn't just blow this off, and express my genuine concern.
I should probably clear up what kind of pain I am having, to the details: When we're going from behind and he goes in pretty much the whole way, typically I feel a sharp stabbing pain in my pelvic region/stomach. Otherwise, I feel a burning sensation of friction in the opening, even if I open the inner labia (think that's what they're called). This increases with condoms (which we use less and less frequently because of this), and sometimes causes a slight bruised feeling (which stays for about a day and I can feel it when I wipe after peeing). We don't use KY warming gel (although we tried it) because it is causes horrible burning, and most other lubes don't really help. Everytime we have sex, it feels like we are SQUEEZING him in.
As time has gone by, orgasms are more difficult to achieve. I use a vibrator to get myself off, and it still takes a good five minutes at least, I would say. I have never had an internal orgasm, and have never even been close from what I've read. Oral sex takes a good fifteen to twenty minutes sometimes. This is why I say there must be a change in libido.
And mal, thanks a lot. That helps me with what I can say, a lot.