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I think you just really need to decide if you're going to be a victim your whole life. By letting your "childhood" influence your adult life you are choosing to do such that.
I have a very hard time with people that decide that the affects of the situation they are in now are because of crappy parents or a crappy childhood etc. If you're cognizant of the fact that there is a problem DO something about it. (which you say you are....this is just a statement about people in general that say these kinds of things).
If you dont get help and choose to stay with your partner you are in turn making them a victim as well. Whether the person chooses to look over your "faults" as you put it and love you anyway is up to them....but they are asking for trouble down the road, because without help ya'll are nothing but two victims perpetuating the problem.
Break the cycle......get the help....do it seriously....dont be one of those people I hate who say...well you just dont understaaaand....this and this happened....Your supposed to be a grown up....quit blaming others, quit being a victim....be a grown up who's made her own choices and decided that your childhood isnt going to rule your adulthood.
I really hesitated saying anything in this thread.....but I wanted to put a different slant on it, even though right now Im of the same opinion of a lot of others, you're not ready to get married. I've seen you tell people on here to "quit posting about it on a message board and do something about it" and now you've gotten upset and defensive when you're told the same things.
I dont say any of this to be a bitch.....I say it with concern for you and your relationship and the outcome of the rest of your life.
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