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Kalnaur · 03-18-2005, 07:57 PM

la petite: Getting help would be very good, not just for what has happened in your past, but talking to a counsellor for couples (if you say you don't have problems as a couple, I will laugh). Stop trying to impress your parents. They are just human beings like you. They are just as prone to mess something up as to get it right. In short, they are not perfect; you have no reason on this earth or any other to try and impress them. Same goes for any other part of your family. Also, if your family does not support you, but instead makes you feel stress, hurt and alone (which is what I'm getting from what you're saying) then they are part of the problem. Talk to your family and tell them if they are doing something to hurt you, especially if it is one of your parents.

Do you use Lube? Does it have Non-Oxyl 9? Do not use anything with that vile chemical. My wife and I did until we found out from my sister that a major amount of women are allergic to it. Scoure the lables. I know Kimono Condoms don't have it, but not sure about lubes and such.

And nwlinkvxd, it isn't just her fault. Your presurring her will actually make her want to have sex with you less. If she has been abused in the past, you are going to help dredge that up by trying to guilt/reason/shame/etc her into sex. So even after she gets help, don't fricking do it. Sex may have been the hardwire, primal trigger of the past, but just like religion, politics, and other modes of life, it evolves, it changes. You may be 19, you may be horny, but you are also a reasoning individual. Let brains win out over your cock, ok? Also, you better make it your business to understand her problems. That is one of the corner-stones of marriage is communicating, not only in good times, but whenever you or she is feeling bad. Tell each other what bothered you that day, care about what the other person says. OTherwise, what reason do you have to get married? If it's for guaranteed sex or to thumb your nose at the world or family, or something dumb like that, look for a better reason.

Good luck to you two, and have a plan for what's going to happen when you two marry, not just for sex, but all things such as school, work, life ambitions, etc. Don't listen to the nay-sayers; you can make it work if you first understand that life together is about supporting the other person as well as yourself.

03-18-2005, 07:57 PM	#113 (permalink)
Kalnaur Psycho Location: Portland, Oregon	la petite: Getting help would be very good, not just for what has happened in your past, but talking to a counsellor for couples (if you say you don't have problems as a couple, I will laugh). Stop trying to impress your parents. They are just human beings like you. They are just as prone to mess something up as to get it right. In short, they are not perfect; you have no reason on this earth or any other to try and impress them. Same goes for any other part of your family. Also, if your family does not support you, but instead makes you feel stress, hurt and alone (which is what I'm getting from what you're saying) then they are part of the problem. Talk to your family and tell them if they are doing something to hurt you, especially if it is one of your parents. Do you use Lube? Does it have Non-Oxyl 9? Do not use anything with that vile chemical. My wife and I did until we found out from my sister that a major amount of women are allergic to it. Scoure the lables. I know Kimono Condoms don't have it, but not sure about lubes and such. And nwlinkvxd, it isn't just her fault. Your presurring her will actually make her want to have sex with you less. If she has been abused in the past, you are going to help dredge that up by trying to guilt/reason/shame/etc her into sex. So even after she gets help, don't fricking do it. Sex may have been the hardwire, primal trigger of the past, but just like religion, politics, and other modes of life, it evolves, it changes. You may be 19, you may be horny, but you are also a reasoning individual. Let brains win out over your cock, ok? Also, you better make it your business to understand her problems. That is one of the corner-stones of marriage is communicating, not only in good times, but whenever you or she is feeling bad. Tell each other what bothered you that day, care about what the other person says. OTherwise, what reason do you have to get married? If it's for guaranteed sex or to thumb your nose at the world or family, or something dumb like that, look for a better reason. Good luck to you two, and have a plan for what's going to happen when you two marry, not just for sex, but all things such as school, work, life ambitions, etc. Don't listen to the nay-sayers; you can make it work if you first understand that life together is about supporting the other person as well as yourself. __________________ PC: Can you help me out here HK? HK-47: I'm 98% percent sure this miniature organic meatbag wants you to help find his fellow miniature organic meatbags. PC: And the other 2 percent? HK-47: The other 2 percent is that he is just looking for trouble and needs to be blasted, but that might be wishful thinking on my part. Last edited by Kalnaur; 03-18-2005 at 08:00 PM..