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innovis · 03-17-2005, 10:40 PM

Not to thread hijack, but my I'm pretty much in the same situation.

My girlfriend has no sex drive, she doesn't masturbate or fantasize, she actually is opposed to trying new things, new positions or locations. It hurts her either to the point that we can't do it, or just so she won't orgasm about 1/3 of the time (she actually orgasms from me grinding against her during sex, and then I thrust for about a minute and finish). She'll say it feels like she has a paper cut or bruising, or its scratching or burning.

The big difference in our relationship compared to LPM's and nwlinkvxd's is that my SO has done NOTHING to see if she can alieviate her pain, or alter her lack of desire. She doesn't think her lack of libido or pain are cureable/solvable problems, and after some research I've found that not viewing lack of sexuality as a problem is characteristic of asexuality. I don't know if her pill is affecting her adversely, because we never really had sex before she was on it, and she was a virgin. We fooled around before that, but I'd only see her for 2-3 days every 3 weeks, so I don't know how she'd act normally.

I'd like to ask what I can do? I mean I've tried, I've spent hours upon hours researching, reading, and shes done absolutely nothing.

I'd also like to say to nwlinkvxd, you have a good woman, she really cares about something that is very important to you, and at least shes tried. Try imagining how you'd feel if she didn't try anything at all and at least be happy that you have hope to sustain you while shes trying to do something.

03-17-2005, 10:40 PM	#104 (permalink)
innovis Crazy	Not to thread hijack, but my I'm pretty much in the same situation. My girlfriend has no sex drive, she doesn't masturbate or fantasize, she actually is opposed to trying new things, new positions or locations. It hurts her either to the point that we can't do it, or just so she won't orgasm about 1/3 of the time (she actually orgasms from me grinding against her during sex, and then I thrust for about a minute and finish). She'll say it feels like she has a paper cut or bruising, or its scratching or burning. The big difference in our relationship compared to LPM's and nwlinkvxd's is that my SO has done NOTHING to see if she can alieviate her pain, or alter her lack of desire. She doesn't think her lack of libido or pain are cureable/solvable problems, and after some research I've found that not viewing lack of sexuality as a problem is characteristic of asexuality. I don't know if her pill is affecting her adversely, because we never really had sex before she was on it, and she was a virgin. We fooled around before that, but I'd only see her for 2-3 days every 3 weeks, so I don't know how she'd act normally. I'd like to ask what I can do? I mean I've tried, I've spent hours upon hours researching, reading, and shes done absolutely nothing. I'd also like to say to nwlinkvxd, you have a good woman, she really cares about something that is very important to you, and at least shes tried. Try imagining how you'd feel if she didn't try anything at all and at least be happy that you have hope to sustain you while shes trying to do something.