(This is more in response to everyone else's statements on guys and porn, not so much in response to the OP... but maybe it will be relevant.)
I guess I'm wondering, is it really fair to expect men to stop looking at porn? Should we make them feel bad about looking at it, or only in certain circumstances? Shouldn't we then feel bad about using vibrators? Bunny, you said that you feel porn is degrading to women... however, what if a woman enjoys watching porn, too? (I do, in some ways.) Does that mean that I degrade women? (not trying to sound harsh here, just wondering if it's fair to hold a double standard and make men feel guilty). My boyfriend doesn't mind if I look at porn, as he trusts that I am not replacing him... and he expects the same tolerance from me.
But I'm confused on the topic, because while it has taken me some time to be more open to porn, I find that I can't be TOO open to it or it starts to corrupt my view of my boyfriend. And yes, it's hard to not believe that he isn't affected the same way... but then again, he only watches it when I'm not able to be there with him, and he says he can't masturbate without it. So in one sense I don't think it's fair to have unhealthy expectations of what men "should" do with their porn... as long as they are loving you most and first, and not cheating on you, then is porn anything more than a tool for release? I would be upset if my boyfriend got jealous of my vibrator, so why should I expect him to give up the porn? (just some questions for discussion, I have no answers!)
