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Whoa Whoa Whoa coming from the perspective of the more sexually driven member of a relationship i have to say that nwlinkvxd you are being kind of scary towards her. So young as am I but honestly she must be frightened of you in some way. Nobody, I repeat myself NOBODY should ever have sex if it is not something they want to do. That said maybe you need to calm down a little and just step back. You are putting off the impression it is her fault something makes it hurt or that it is her fault she can't give a bj. Now if you want to be with her you must first accept her for who she is and work with her. By the way it sounds you are only working against her and making her feel less like doing so.
A long time ago while being friends with benefits with the girl i am now dating i took advantage of her in a bad way. I made her do things she didn't want to do and i made it sound like she was a bitch for not doing so. It took a very long time to regain that trust even though we fell in love with eachother. I now ask a sexually oriented question once and if she says no its a no go. But the benefits of that is that she is so comfortable there is no time she is not willing to stand up and say hey i want to give you a bj or i want to have sex. Treat her as you would like to be treated please don't place blame. If she doesn't wake up horny like you do every day she isn't a bad person she is just not horny. Don't put things into a context they don't need to be in.
If i had to take a bet why it hurts her I would say she is scared in some way or this is some kind of emotional trauma or something maybe not with you even but something little small maybe she doesn't even know what it may be and it needs to be fixed. But please, stop making this anybody's fault. It is not.
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