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Cynthetiq: I'm truly sorry. My first instinct was to say that your fathers family is your family. Then I instantly thought of my mother and her side of my (genetic) family. They played a huge part in my life growing up, for all intents and purposes, the main part. My parents divorced when I was 17, mostly due to my mother. Because my father was the more stable parent (I was nearing legal age but my little sister was still only coming up on 13), he obtained custody. My initial response to your post was as an adult of (nearly) 34 yrs. of age. I don't know your age when you experienced what you did, but I assume you were youngish which can definately hurt all the more.
My mother is a master manipulator and (simplisticly) convinced her side of the family that my dad was evil and to blame for the end of their marriage. My sister and I were there everyday and experienced the real truth that they wouldn't accept (meaning my mother was 90% of the problem). My point is that our knee-jerk responses are just that, we don't know the reality behind anyone's statements unless we were physically there and experienced it.
Cynthetiq: This has all been directed towards you, but I thought I should state it again. Whatever your religious beliefs, I hope that you havn't been spoiled on Christmas for good. I myself do not hold any specific religious thoughts, but I do love Christmas-time because it seems to be the one time of the year that most American's lose the attitude and become cordial (and of corse, there are the lights!).
Peace,
Ali
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