abaya

Ditto. Love means you set yourself aside and put her at the front of the line. I don't see a lot of that in the quoted IM discussion about how "everyone SHOULD want sex all the time" because they're human? Dude, if that doesn't make her feel like shit, I don't know what would. If someone told me that I was basically "not human"for not wanting sex when it's always painful to me, I'd break up with him immediately.

There is a a LOT of deep stuff going on with you guys... why are you getting married so young? Do you think these problems will go away after the wedding day? In other words, do you have an option of at least delaying the wedding, working on your sexual incompatibility, and getting married when you actually feel 100% comfortable and satisfied with each other (which doesn't necessarily mean having more sex, btw)?

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran