I seem to recall reading a post from you, LPM, that you used to be really horny before you started taking whatever kind of birth control you are taking now, but ever since you started it you haven't been horny at all. Let me say this:
Birth control can be a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE libido killer! If you want to talk to someone who has experienced the very same exact thing, PM my wife Sage. When she went on the NuvaRing her libido just absolutely tanked and she went from feeling like she didn't like sex at all to feeling like she wished she wanted to have sex more but still didn't to feeling like she wanted to have sex with me just because she knew it was tough on me to go for a long time without. And now that she got off the NuvaRing, guess what?
She wants sex ALLLL the time.
Seriously. Get some different birth control. Just try it for a while and see if it doesn't help you a LOT. Maybe even try getting off of it entirely. You've got nothing to lose; if you're currently totally un-interested in sex at all then taking birth control doesn't do you much good, now does it?