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Originally Posted by nwlinkvxd
I believe a lot of LPM's stresses result from the fact that she does not enjoy internal stimulation at all. The consequence is that she doesn't use her vibrator inside of her (she never actually puts it in, though I have urged her). Instead she uses the vibrator's tip on her clit to orgasm. This, manual masturbation, and my tongue are the only ways she can orgasm. There really isn't any difficulties in any of these methods. They just don't work the way my penis does.
Nothing makes me feel worse than having to masturbate when I know LPM is in the other room. But I've had to do it on numerous occasions to placate my sex drive.
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nwlinkvxd, welcome to the real world of women. Many, if not most, get very little pleasure from vaginal stilulation. It's a fact. It's the odd one that gets anything out of ordinary thrusting, and one in a million who can cum from it. I've been married 16 years. Not once in 16 years has my wife orgasmed from the "old in-out." She comes from oral, from masturbation (with or without a vibrator), but never from penetration alone. Sometimes she craves having me inside her if she's real worked up. But no fireworks from it.
It took me a long time to accept this fact of life. But now that I have, my wife enjoys sex more, and she orgasms regularly-- almost every time we go at it-- from oral or from our toys.
Don't fret about masturbating while LPM is in the next room. It's no big deal. I masturbate, and so does my wife. It doesn't demenish our sex life. It's separate from what we do together. We are both okay with that.
Have you every listened to the radio program Loveline, with Adam and Dr. Drew? I recommend you both listen to it together. The "problem" of women not cumming from fucking comes up often on that program. It's quite ordinary, especially among young women (less than 27).
LPM's pain and discomfort during sex needs to be addressed. How long has she had pain during intercourse? Did she have pain before the two of you started having sex?
She must go to another gyno for a second opinion. Pain is nature's signal that something is wrong. She's got something wrong. If you use rubbers, she could be allergic. If you use the pill, maybe she needs a different kind. Maybe she's got an infection, or an STD. Most likely it's something very easy to cure.