Originally Posted by danny_boy

Hey,

I have tried the non-initiation thing, and yes she does initiate when I do that. She knows how big of a turn on it is for me. She also said that majority of the time I beat her to it.

Now though, as I said, when she does initiate I second guess her, because we have discussed it, and Im wondering if she is horny, and therefore initiating, or if she is doing it for me.

We still live apart (traditional parents..no moving in together before marriage) so it is not like we can just have sex whenever. She says after we get married and have our own place, where we can have sex at any hour of the day, it will be different.

I am a pessimist by nature, and very cynical. Like once we were making out, and in the middle she just stopped and started staring at me, and then just put her head on my chest and fell asleep. Yes, that's romantic, and in hindsight, I loved it....but at the time, I was thinking....she just doesnt like sex....