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Originally Posted by sweetpea
I am inclined to comment that this whole thing really isn't about "betty" . . . but rather about something you feel might be missing in your life . . . Is your passion for life gone? fucking betty a few times isn't going to fix things for you . . . only make them more complicated . . .
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<b>sweetpea</b>, I think that you are right about a few things
- fucking betty a few times isn't going to fix things for you
- only make them more complicated
- this whole thing really isn't about "betty"
But I don't think that it is about something missing in his life.
I think that it is just a feeling that we all feel sometimes.
I think that we meet someone and we are attracted to them there is this mystery (not the exact word that I am looking for) that goes along with this type of situation. We don't know how they feel about us. Al different thoughts run through your head. You get nervous and excited when you talk or see each other.
It is these feelings that make these type of situation so exciting and make us want to go further or prolong the experience. It's fun, it's exciting, it makes you feel alive.
But remember...
These things happen at the pre-anything stage of relationships. If you can all remember back far enough, it happened with your spouses/SOs in those early stages.
These nervous feelings that cause us to get excited about people and situations are the same feelings that go away as we become comfortable with someone.
<b>Fatboss</b>, you have become comfortable with your wife. Which is good. Your relationship is so much better becuase of it. It is not a shallow flirtatious relationship that while exciting is nothing deeper.
Your relationship with your wife (and ours with all our SOs) goes far beyond that.
The drawback is that becuase we are comfortable it is hard to get that nervous feeling that we get with someone we have not become comfortable with yet.
That is not to say that the experiences we have with our SOs are not exciting, it is just that there is an element of the known that takes the nervous edge off.
It is this nervous edge that makes the situation really exciting. It is these nervous edge that people choose to mistake for something better than they already have. They don't think about the fact that after a few times together this type of excitement will wear off and may be replaced by other awesome feelings but not the ones that are pulling them together at this point in time.
What I am trying to say is that there will always be situations like this. It is the unknown that is making it so exciting and interesting.
So, whether you go ahead with this or not, there will be other Bettys. There wil be other situations where you will be overcome with this feeling of being attracted to somebody.
Just remember, as I said above. You had these feelings for Mrs. Fatboss before she was Mrs. Fatboss. It was becuase of the unknown element that you had these feelings.
You know what you have know with Mrs. Fatboss.
You don't know what you will have with Betty or any other women that you will get into this situation with once the unknown is gone and the comfortability sets in.
What you have with your wife and kids would never be worth risking for anything let alone a Betty.
<font size=1>My two cents. Or $40.00</font>
This did not exactly come out how it is in my head, but I think you get the point.