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Originally Posted by ninnycode
My roommate is out of town...I came across her day planner and flipped through the pages... I realize that this is none of my business, but I am completely baffled...
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Maybe I should start a different thread to address the concern I have on this thread's topic and the content of your original post.
First of all, I really dislike any aspect of
one person invading the privacy of another person.
Also, if you absolutely
must seek other's opinions on a subject, I really don't feel it was appropriate to give details concerning: 1. How you came across the information 2. Whose
personal information it was.
When did it become acceptable to open someone else's personal day planner and look through it? The last time I checked, this was an invasion of privacy. Maybe you figure, if the roles were reversed, that you wouldn't mind if she "flipped through the pages" because you don't have anything to hide, in your
own day planner, but what if you did?? What if you had found out something that was
even more intimate or personal??
I don't think these are the actions or behaviour of someone who is trustworthy, honest, mature. I don't think you had any honest or sincere intentions or concerns. Therefore, from the information given, you had no reason to
be looking through her personal belongings in the first place. I also have to question the validity of "coming across her dayplanner". This could mean it was in (open or hidden) view in any room (living room, bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, etc.) of your shared living quarters or that you could have searched through your roommates things in her bedroom.
I stand firm in believing that this
really was and still is none of your business, ninnycode.
And to address your topic: Did you ever stop to consider that maybe each time she's
made love to her boyfriend, it has meant something to her and that she keeps record as a way of remembering? Some people
do cherish intimate moments with their partners and some may feel compelled to keep a record, regardless of their reasons as to why they are doing so. Just because you don't keep record doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with your roommate doing so.
The fact of the matter is:
It's her personal business, she can use it as she sees fit. Clearly, It wasn't any of your business, I feel you had no right to violate your roommates privacy.