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I don't know the relevence, but here is another viewpoint. My SO & I had different opinions about what was frequent vs. not enough. This is not a subject I would ever raise, but also one that when asked I would honestly answer that I wished we got together more regularly.
One day she got out a calendar going back several months and read the week by week account with the days we got it on and the days we didn't - and the reasons for the didn'ts. As she sat there going "and on Thursday the 5th of June you got lucky ..." I felt more and more upset because while I thought we'd been spontaneously taking advantage of the times she wasn't ill or tired or upset/depressed she was actually thinking in the back of her mind "another lucky x in my chart for him".
I feel that there are things you don't record because you aren't supposed to make lists about your SO or keep score. She made one anyway, and did so to score points in an arguement that I didn't even know we were having. Still bugs me when it comes to mind.
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