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Old 03-06-2005, 10:55 PM   #83 (permalink)
KMA-628
....is off his meds...you were warned.
 
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I'm lucky. Because of my size, I rarely had any problems with bullies. Plus, the one and only time I had to really deal with a bully, I punched him in the mouth (3rd Grade in an elementary school where the freakin' gang bangers had business cards...no shit, they did....in elementary school no less and this was a couple decades ago).

Anyway, my son is more than likely going to be even bigger than I am (all males in our family are six-foot plus--all females are around six-foot), so hopefully he won't have too many problems.

I have already had "the talk" with my oldest daughter, and when my son is old enough, I will tell him the same thing.

1) Always be nice to everybody....there is no exception. Everybody deserves your respect in the beginning, they lose that respect by their own choosing.

2) Always stand up for the little guy. Because you are big, most kids will know better than to mess with you. However, if you ever see somebody being hurt/abused/beaten/whatever, you do whatever you can to stop it. If that means tell a teacher, than tell a teacher. If that means physically break it up, than physically break it up. If you get in trouble for keeping someone from hurting another person that is smaller than them or less able than them, I will never be angry with you.

3) Never, ever let yourself be pushed around. Ever. Because, more often than not, you will continue to be pushed around. Don't ever be the victim.

And, the one my dad taught me (the same guy who also taught me how to disarm a guy pointing a gun at me--gotta love being raised by a cop)

4) There is no such thing as a fair fight, there is only a fight, and you do whatever you need to do to win that fight....unless you started the fight....because if that's the case, then I'm gonna kick your ass.

I would hope, as a parent, that I might have stepped in more forcibly earlier if I noticed my kid have a problem like this. That being said, I would be proud of my kid for taking a stand and not letting himself be pushed around more. I would gladly pay the fine and accompany him to community service.

The kid just learned a huge lesson and he will be better off for it.
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