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xepherys · 03-06-2005, 07:29 PM

On a side note, my wife is relatively thin. My son's mom was also relatively thin. My ex-girlfriend was a little bit bigger (size 14, not huge). Her "weight" didn't make a difference. the biggest thing that was a problem for our relationship was her poor self image. Maybe THAT'S something that turns guys off about overweight women. I don't know if this holds true in your case as I don't know you at all... but sometimes there's more to a stereotype than meets the eye.

Also, anyone with any psychology education knows that it's human nature to group, judge and react. It's how we operate. Even the Ghandi among us judge... he just happened to judge postively on everyone. You yourself are judging someone to be shallow because they don't find overweight females attractive. Frankly, I think chubby girls can be fantastically cute. I also think that overweight guys are generally exceptionally unattractive. Maybe that's because I was in that boat once and hated it. My judgement is clouded by my own previous shortcomings. If I, instead, thought girls over a size 2 were disgusting, due to my own internal struggles with previous weight gain, would I still be shallow?

03-06-2005, 07:29 PM	#83 (permalink)
xepherys <3 TFP Location: 17TLH2445607250	On a side note, my wife is relatively thin. My son's mom was also relatively thin. My ex-girlfriend was a little bit bigger (size 14, not huge). Her "weight" didn't make a difference. the biggest thing that was a problem for our relationship was her poor self image. Maybe THAT'S something that turns guys off about overweight women. I don't know if this holds true in your case as I don't know you at all... but sometimes there's more to a stereotype than meets the eye. Also, anyone with any psychology education knows that it's human nature to group, judge and react. It's how we operate. Even the Ghandi among us judge... he just happened to judge postively on everyone. You yourself are judging someone to be shallow because they don't find overweight females attractive. Frankly, I think chubby girls can be fantastically cute. I also think that overweight guys are generally exceptionally unattractive. Maybe that's because I was in that boat once and hated it. My judgement is clouded by my own previous shortcomings. If I, instead, thought girls over a size 2 were disgusting, due to my own internal struggles with previous weight gain, would I still be shallow? Last edited by xepherys; 03-06-2005 at 09:48 PM..