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I don't beleive in destiny. We all have personality traits that make us more compatable with some people than with others. Some people have traits that enable them to be compatable with a relatively large portion of the population, and others with a relatively small part. Some people have traits that may make it nearly impossible to find a long term compatable partner.
Beyond that, I think it's simply a matter of probability, chance, and timing as to whether you find a person with whom you are compatable. You have to come into contact with the right person at the right time, and have to be able to recognize that this is the right person, and be able and willing to do the work to get to know and relate to and fit in with the other person. I am very fortunate to have found a person with whom I am a very good fit, and to have found her at just the right time. It took five failed relationships and many more first dates before I found true love. Notice I didn't say my one true love. I think that there are likely others out there with whom I could have been equally happy, and there are others with whom my SO could have been equally happy. But I don't value my relationship any less as a result. We are so good together that I would not risk this relationship for anything. I don't think I'd ever find anything remotely as good, anywhere near this close to perfect.
"Bless your beautiful hide
Wherever you may be.
We ain't met yet
But I"m a willin' to bet,
You're the gal for me."
Seven Brides for Seven Brothers
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