i disagree. assuming youve been sleeping with this person, u have had their snatches in your face all the time, now ur just doing it with music? i dont think thats a good lapdance.
go to ur local electronics store and buy a "strobe light" 10$ or so, very good investment in having fun with your partner, its a white flash device that you can adjust the speed of, turn off completely- all other lights in the room. i like to use a room where the walls are white. oil up ur body maybe
. and this a sensual dance, so ur not moving that much.
oh yeah, and theres always time for humping later, the fun part is getting there, so go slow.