I spend almost all my non-work time in my apartment. I've noticed that I almost never find friends that way.
I rarely see anything that I'm interested in out in the world, so I don't go out much. Also, there's screaming rug rats out there whose mouths I can't duct tape shut.
The net just seems so much safer
than actually going out, but it's so void
when you never go out and see the people you've been chatting with. I
know that can work, as when I was in the Dallas area, we did that.
In my current area though, it doesn't work out well.
And "women"? I've met one woman on-line since I've been here, and that didn't work out very well. No guilt or anything, but not much of use, either. I got some experience and a bit more self-knowledge, so it wasn't a total loss or anything.
I've tried going to a few local Jewish singles gatherings. I've got the scars to prove it. Most recently, I was trapped for two hours between a couple of marketting dweebs talking shop. Torture! And I couldn't change seats as that would have confused the waitress even more than she already was.
What I want to find is a good way to find single Jewish women interested in science fiction in the western Massachusetts area, but I've been unable to find any local SF groups.