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iccky · 03-02-2005, 08:36 PM

I dunno

I'm fairly happy in this relationship (almost 3 years). But then a few weeks ago I went to Montreal with a bunch of friends for a model UN conference (our team motto is "a drinking team with a model UN problem"). Now, if you've never been to Montreal, lets just say its a crazy town. Lots of beautiful women and the booze flows very liberally.

So the last night we're at a dance club and I'm in a spectacular mood and start dancing. And start dancing with this beautiful chick. And there was just this energy there, this sexual tension. I move a little bit closer, she moves closer, I touch her here, do I dare to touch her there? And if I had picked her up and gone back to her place those moments, that delicious tension would have continued, and while the sex probably wouldn't have been anything incredible and certainly not worth the guilt of cheating on my girlfriend, those moments would have been spectacular.

And I just don't get those in my relationship anymore. We're very comfortable with each other; we sleep together naked every night, do anything in bed, grab each other as we walk around the apartment (again, almost always naked). And I enjoy it, but the flip side of it is that there's no sexual tension, no thrill of the chase, no mystery, no seduction. And I realize that if I was single those moments would be every month or so if I was lucky, and that I suck at the chase and if I was single I'd just sit around my apartment most nights. But if that tension, those moments, are what you mean by "the hunt" then yes, I miss it.

03-02-2005, 08:36 PM	#37 (permalink)
iccky Psycho Location: Princeton, NJ	I dunno I'm fairly happy in this relationship (almost 3 years). But then a few weeks ago I went to Montreal with a bunch of friends for a model UN conference (our team motto is "a drinking team with a model UN problem"). Now, if you've never been to Montreal, lets just say its a crazy town. Lots of beautiful women and the booze flows very liberally. So the last night we're at a dance club and I'm in a spectacular mood and start dancing. And start dancing with this beautiful chick. And there was just this energy there, this sexual tension. I move a little bit closer, she moves closer, I touch her here, do I dare to touch her there? And if I had picked her up and gone back to her place those moments, that delicious tension would have continued, and while the sex probably wouldn't have been anything incredible and certainly not worth the guilt of cheating on my girlfriend, those moments would have been spectacular. And I just don't get those in my relationship anymore. We're very comfortable with each other; we sleep together naked every night, do anything in bed, grab each other as we walk around the apartment (again, almost always naked). And I enjoy it, but the flip side of it is that there's no sexual tension, no thrill of the chase, no mystery, no seduction. And I realize that if I was single those moments would be every month or so if I was lucky, and that I suck at the chase and if I was single I'd just sit around my apartment most nights. But if that tension, those moments, are what you mean by "the hunt" then yes, I miss it.