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If I were to adopt I would prefer to adopt a caucasion child. There. I said it. Is it racist? Maybe. I don't care. If I were to have my own child I would prefer a boy and I'm hoping for blue eyes and blond hair. I have blue eyes and blond hair. I'd like him to have a good sense of humour and be smart and well developed. Some people just have preferences. If this person is to live as my child I would like them to look somewhat like me. I don't want to explain about the adoption to people in the grocery store. I don't want to go throught the whole adoption story when I register him for school or the like. I want to be able to relate to him as closely as possible and if he was another race with white parents he would have issues I never had to face. Heck, I'm lazy. Raising a child is HARD and I have no wish to make it harder. I find it sad so many African American babies go unadopted but it would be wrong for me to adopt a child out of some feeling of social obligation. Is this racist? I don't think so but if it is its a very benign and I think understandable form of racism. Parents see their children as an extension of themselves. A child of another race is harder to place in that role. Adoption is for life and an extremly important responsiblity. I thinks it is understandable that most adoptive parents opt for that which is familiar and closest to their own self image.
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