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kma,
you say you don't want to be put on the defensive, that if you are then the person delivering the message will find their message unaccepted.
i say that as long as the message does not fit into your world view, does not match your oppinions, you will automatically be put on the defensive.
how can one possibly say soemthing like 'bush's plan on SS is wrong' (with a list of reasons following it) if you agree with his plan and anytime someone says otherwise puts you on the defensive.
i think people pretty much always become defensive when someone else criticizes their opinions and things they agree with. it's natural. people don't change until their open enough to actually look at their side with a critical eye, something most people aren't willing to do. think about an alcoholic... they think nothing is wrong, and anytime someone tells them they might have a drinking problem they get on the defensive. it isn't until that they've reached a certain point that they're mentally willing to look at themselves critically and be open to what people say rather than becoming defensive about it.
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