Originally Posted by BurntToast

I really wasn't blaming the 12 y.o. simply because I don't think she should have been put in that situation to begin with.

I talked to my ex about it and she got all pissy and said we are going to court because she wants joint custody (I have full custody at this time). Sigh.....

Thanks everyone for all your help. I guess its up to the judge and my (over priced) lawer to figure things out now.....