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Originally Posted by CandleInTheDark
You can eat healthy and still stay fat. Only caloric deficit will result in weight loss.
I see to no reason to be accepting of someone who does not want to work hard enough to become healthy. Unless you have a severe medical condition that resulted in you being obese, there is no excuse.
Now if I saw you in the gym working your ass off (pun not intended), or planning your meals in order to reach your goals, then I see no reason for someone to disrespect you. If you just sit and moan about how your body won't cooperate, don't expect people to be accepting.
I'm not asking (and I'm sure no one else is) that you have a perfect body, or that you be quick in getting it. That is of course unrealistic. But you cannot expect someone to accept the choices that made you obese, or the choices that keep you there.
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Perhaps it might be the case that I am not overly concerned about your acceptance of me in the first place? Certainly, my own feeling would be that anyone who would be judgemental to the extent of "not accepting" someone who is overweight would probably be rather superficial, and would not be someone I would be especially interested in relating to, and would also be rather unlikely to offer an insight or perception of life that I would find interesting.
Fundamentally, you are correct that people are overweight because they consume more calories than they burn - but there can be medical, social, and environmental causes. And perhaps some people dont choose to conform to your view of what they should be. if someone is healthy and happy, then it really doesnt matter if they are considered overweight. if they are unhealthy and/or unhappy - then of course your negative comments can be damaging to some people.
For myself, I dont really think that you should be prevented from saying it, but my opinion is that the fact of your statement reflects far more badly on you than the argument you make reflects badly on me,
I think what the poster who started the thread is true to some extent. Comments about overweight people can be made - in society, not especially here - and are seen as more acceptable as a negative comment about sexuality, ethnicity, or gender would be.