alicat

Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread.

As a couple people have pointed out, there are posts in this thread that are exactly what this thread is about and bring to bare the topic. As some have said, I should ignore the attitudes, which I will from now on. A few people have made assumptions about me (and overweight people in general) without knowing the first darn thing about me or my situation.

I am not complaining about being fat but about intolerance of people who are. My back pain is from a car accident not my weight, but, of corse my weight exaserbates it and it is an obsticle not an excuse. I said that exercise is my problem and physical activity is hard. I did not say I don't exercise, it has just been assumed, and rather bluntly, that I haven't taken responsibility for or action against my situation and that I am "whining" and looking for pity.

I have lost 50 lbs. in the past year and a couple months, even with my limitations. I do not call that "doing nothing about my problem". I see it as a great victory and being pro-active for my health. As for the calories I put in my mouth, I stated quite clearly that I eat healthily. I don't eat breakfast which isin't great for my metabolism, but for whatever reason, I can't keep food down in the morning (nothing medically wrong). I am not asking for sympathy from anyone.

Sorry Mods, I didn't mean to imply that there are deliberate "insults" from anyone towards another member, that would not be tolerated. It is the random comments like (made-up example), "so my buddies and me were in the bar and this fat chick asked me to dance", that no one seems to blink at that bother me. Of corse I'm sensitive to this because of my situation but not at all overly so. It just bothers me that a human being is reduced to "a fat chick" as if they are not a person but something repugnant and not worthy of respect.

I don't know any of you beyond written words on my screen. And yet those words are representative of human beings that I share this world with and that contribute to my existance. It's akin to someone who is in a wheelchair, missing a leg, reading someone casually saying something about a "gimp". It would not be directly referring to you but would still be derrogatory and callous about your condition (not meaning to imply being overweight is the same as being physically handi-capped at all).

Lastly, while I find the female body beautiful, i do not frequent the Titty Board as some have asked. And Exhibition is the very last place on the TFP that would ever have negative comments about someone's body or weight, and maybe one day I will feel secure enough to post there. I probably should have thought more before talking about posting there as it is mature and respectful members that seem to have access (or quite possibly, only they are tolerated!).

Again, thanks to everyone who contributed to this discussion.

Ali

Edit: I forgot to say; most of the incidences of "fat" comments are (like stated above) certainly not worthy of reporting to the Mods. However, I couldn't help but say something about the accumulation of comments I see that still botherd me...

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