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I think that the truth is to be found somewhere in the middle, as with most situations involving human feelings and circumstances. Humans are very adaptable creatures and so it goes with our attraction to our sexual partners. I am aware that when I am old, chances are my sexual partner will also be older. I suppose when that time comes, I will just deal with the fact that I am no longer in bed with a 20- or 30-something. Sure, a young, firm body is going to be inherently more appealing than an aged, "flawed" one. And sure, men are visually stimulated, more so than women in a lot of cases. However, I have noticed that as I age, I am no longer as attracted by the smooth, unlined faces of 20-year-olds. I enjoy seeing the little crinkles at the corners of my boyfriend's eyes because I know that means he's been laughing. Or squinting into the sun even, whatever it is he's been doing I know that he's been somewhere living life and I appreciate that. I don't believe that men are so shallow that they don't have the same feelings about the women in their lives, no matter how visual they are.
I perceive a lot of idealism in the comments saying that physical appearance doesn't matter when you love someone. Truthfully, it's going to be a factor, but hopefully one that is mitigated by years of affection and appreciation for the person behind the wrinkles. This is not a cut-and-dried topic, since every situation is different and humans are complex creatures. Uptown, I want to give you credit for speaking your truth; I know it's not an easy topic and perhaps I'm mistaken but I sense a lot of pain behind your remarks. But you could back down a little bit and be more flexible, don't you think? There is more to attraction than simple physical stmulus, and there are more scenarios being played out in people's bedrooms than your own.
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