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I won't kick you in the nuts because I've seen this type of behavior before and while the joking might have been a bit harsh I don't think what you prefer is worthy of bashing you over.
If you truly feel she's trying to keep her weight down(face it folks people don't excercise and have weight loss books hanging around just for the hell of it)and you want to help then you need to reasses what you are doing on your dates.
Go work out with her. A lot of the times if somebody has a workout buddy then it will help push them and keep them accountable around that person when they are out for some grub.
Go find a climbing wall for a date, go biking some place, etc...instead of going for a movie.
Find restaurants that serve reasonable portions and healthy food and YOU order something healthy first. If you are ordering the porterhouse and steakfries don't be shocked if she orders the New York strip and baked potato and then finishes it off. She might just like food.
Make small talk about how you are trying to keep in shape and are cutting back on unhealthy food.
That's all you can do. It's up to her at that point to pick up the hint. Give it a few months and if she does then you might have a keeper. If she doesn't and still has the few extra pounds a few months afterwards cut bait and move on if she isn't what you want. It may be shallow to judge somebody based on their weight but most people do it to an extent. If you aren't physically attracted to somebody then you aren't and you shouldn't be made to make apologies for that.
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