Lets see.. we've been together almost 10 years. 4 years dating 5 years married. During the first 4 years she would get bummed out if we didn't have sex at least 3 to 5 times a week. We got married and had a child right away. For the last 5 years I'm lucky if I get it once every month or two.
We both work and now have 2 kids so a lot of it is a time issue. Plus she's had a hard time loosing the baby weight. She's not big, but not small either and it's something she's very self consious of. I tell her all the time I think she's sexy and beautiful, but until she can loose the weight I think it will always cause a problem.