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Originally Posted by uptown
Loving their bodies at age 50? participating in swingers parties? you've got to be kidding me right ?
I was taught that once menopause hit,that a woman with any sort of class or breeding gracefully retired from sexuality. I've got to say I agree with this teaching.
There is nothing sexy about surgical scars,varicose veins,sagging breasts, gray hair or wrinkles on a woman
and nothing more sad and pathetic than a woman who refuses to act her age.
I think older woman are better off and far more appreciated when they accept their age with grace and have the wisdom to understand that at this time in their lives,their best purpose,in fact their only purpose is to use their resources to aid,comfort and care for others.
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I am so sorry that you had to learn your sexuality and value as a human based on whoever taught you those beliefs.
We, as women, as not defined by our bodies. Our "usefulness" is not defined by the number of eggs we pop out of our ovaries or by the stream of hormones made by our ovaries. If our purposes were defined by such things, why were we given brains? Why not just function on a purely instinctual basis?
By your method of thinking, men are more sexually "useful" than women since they continue to produce sperm and do not go through a male menopause. We may not, biologically, by capable of reproduction, but sex isn't only about reproduction (that's all biological), it is about love and desire (mental).
I have a suspicion that sex may have never been a big deal for you so your post menopausal life is just dandy without sex. Not true for everyone, dear. I truly hope that you recognize that poisoned self-perception and allow yourself a life after menopause or at least not think that we only = our bodies.