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I think part of what I was trying to get at is there's a middle ground between confrontation and avoidance.
If you're like me and you're not necessarily used to interacting with people a lot, situations may seem like "confrontation" because it takes more nerve for you to work yourself up to it than someone else. But I'd strongly suggest finding the middle ground. Do you think the example I gave above is confrontational? The other thing is, unlike me, you're full of testosterone. That might tend to skew things towards the confrontational realm a bit (the other guy too, I guess). I don't think that means you have to get in a fight over something as stupid as some weirdo's knee, though. I should let the guys take over from there.
An example of what I was trying to say above - when I first started trying to talk to people at about age 18, it took so much energy for me to push through my own reserve that what I said would come out too intense a lot of the time and I think I actually scared people away. It really took years for me to find the balance between the extremes.
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