hossified

well...update...it is now day 2 of the 'not talking to you' approach she seems to be taking. She comes home from work and goes in to the bedroom and closes the door behind her. And I'm just stubborn enough to go along with it, since she is the one who started the silent treatment. I'm not about to 'fold', and go chasing after her, when I feel she was in the wrong, and because she was the one to initiate this approach. So I've made an effort, to meet up after work at a coffee house so we can talk some stuff out. I want to get across to her that this is VERY serious, including her silent treatment reaction, and that this is really damaging our chances (I found myself yesterday looking at one bedroom apartmentsin the paper, to get an idea of budget and cause I am so fed up).......there have been some real good suggestions on here......but I need some more. How can I now get across to her the severity of this issue, without her feeling like I am personally attakcing her. I know that if I start rhyming off alist of things I am unhappy about, she is just going to shut down and not even listen anymore.....??