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Originally Posted by MiSo
honestly, it sucks that you have to be the one to clean up everything. its annoying and living in filth sucks. you can try doing things seperate like having seperate sides of the counter/dinner table/coffee table. and having seperate hampers. that way you'll clean your mess and she'll have to learn how to clean hers. also have a cleaning schedule that you guys can follow.
example, if you guys have to clean the microwave
you do it on monday, she does it on thursday.
same with vacuuming, set certain days to do chores
and make a check off list to place on the fridge.
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I agree with this. It will help alot. I currently having the same problem with my b/f although we are not living together. I am not all that quick to clean up after myself. I live by myself, and now my b/f when he comes over expects everything to be spic and span for him. This may be how she feels. In reading previously, you mentioned that YOU move in with HER.
You should first and foremost talk calmly with her about what is bugging you. She may feel that you moved in and now you are trying to get her to change, through nagging, the way she has been for quite sometime now. She may be feeling some resentment and may be wishing that you hadn't move in not realizing how you would be when you did.
I do have one question. Before you moved in, did you spend time with her at her place? If you did was she the same way as she is currently? And if this is true, did you say anything about cleaning before you moved in?