Ok, I'm very sorry for I did not mean to start a battle on whether or not women at age 50 "after menopause" are sexy or not. That was not the intention of this post. This post was strictly about getting advice from women on how they deal with their men watching porn and how you deal with the thoughts of having to live up to what he looks at.
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Originally Posted by MALEIGH99
You should do some searches on here about porn. There's been a few threads about ladies trying to deal with their porn lovin' SOs.
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I will do this. Thanks.
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Originally Posted by maleficent
Now, there's nothing wrong with a man looking at porn, but if that's all he's doing, and he's picking the porn over you, which you haven't said... but you are implying you are not always his first choice, he's got a problem.
Addiction to sex, is joked about a lot, but it is an addiction, and pornography being so readily available makes it tough for a person to give up.
Do you look at porn with him? Adding it in to your sex life? Have you suggested it? What's he said when you talked to him about how you are feeling. (You don't want to break up with him because you've been with him a year, you surely better be able to talk to him about how you are feeling.
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Sometimes he picks the porn over me, but he has mentioned that he picks porn over me because sometimes he doesn't want to mess with the time it takes to get me off, and yes, I do take a while.
I can talk to him about it, but he doesn't seem to understand why I have an issue with it, and it is not all the time. I guess I think that if I am with him, he shouldn't need/want to look at porn because I should be all he needs to get off at the moment. I do understand when I'm not there looking at porn comes with dating a guy, but when I think about the Hilton girl (whom he likes), there is no way I can measure up to that.
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Originally Posted by sage
i'd focus on what makes YOU feel sexy. if you feel that your body isn't what you'd like it to be, change it! you SHOULD NOT feel like you have to conform to a model of beauty that is unrealistic for you. Like, it'd probably be impossible for you to be 5'11" and a size 0. make yourself feel sexy! get some cute clothes, throw out everything that you don't look fabulous in, eat healthy, exercise (not only shapes up your body but is GREAT for making you feel good about yourself), masturbate! babe, you have 34DDD BREASTS! i mean, my god, if your BF doesn't want em bring em my way! you've got some boobs, and some curves, and that's what most men really want, least all the ones that are worth a damn. the stupid standard of beauty that has come about because of people like Pam Anderson and all those Maxim models is unrealistic anyway. don't try and be someone else- be yourself!
i know exactly how you feel tho- i'm 5'11" 220lbs 36D and definintely DON'T look like Jenna Jameson. but even tho my SO looks at porn, i know that it's me he wants at the end of the day. you have to realize, that your man is WITH YOU, not some skinny aneroxic bitch, and that YOU are more than the size of your jeans! sit down, talk with him, figure out where your insecurities lie, and deal with them in a mature manner! you are beautiful just the way you are!
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Thank you very much. I'm glad someone likes my 34DDD's
Thank you all of you. We spoke about it last night during dinner only because he read the posts right before. He doesn't seem to understand why I feel that I have to measure up, but I know he cares about me very much, and wouldn't want to hurt me, especially over porn.
Again, thanks guys..errr. I mean Girls!