Oh, wise dating pros of TFP, I require your superpowers/experience :-)
I went snowboarding on Sunday with a group of people. Most of them I already knew from the student housing where I live. Three of them were acquaintancies (sp?) of a guy living where I live, among which was also a very cute girl, which I immediately liked.
So, we had a lot of fun snowboarding, taking breaks, following each other's lead on the slope (the whole group, not just me and she). During our breaks, I talked to her I bit, and I also caught her looking at me and smiling... more often than I am normally used to
. I smiled back, was nice, made some small talk about the mountain, the snow, how it would be cool to ride while listening to music
etc, generally tried to be interesting without becoming boring (those reading David DeAngelo's newsletter will understand
).
Unfortunately, I didn't get her number, although I was planning to. So, I was thinking of contacting her to arrange a meeting. For the record, that would be my first date in more than 3 months, and my first date with someone I just met without prior contact in the university/work or otherwise. But it's OK, I feel cool about that, not shy or anything.
As I don't have her phone number, I have two possibilities:
- Ask her phone number from our common acquaintance
- Find her e-mail
Choice a) might be possible, if the guy has her number. I am still unsure about dealing through a middle-man though... It might seem needy (?). How would you think she would take it, if I called her out of the blue?
Choice b) is accomplished, in the sense that I have already found her e-mail in the university's student e-mail directory. As she is an exchange student though, I can't know whether she uses the uni's e-mail, so I'm a bit reluctant to send an email which could stay on the mail server for months to come.
What should I do? I personally have no conscience problem with either option. I'm interested, so I'll try to communicate. If nothing comes out of it, too bad, the grass is always greener on the other side. I'm more concerned about what is the more "polite" and "non-creepy" (to her of course) approach.
I'd really like an informed opinion on that
