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Originally Posted by Charlatan
I see where you are coming from and it makes sense... However, as we weren't given any instruction on critera for organizing out lists I chose to organize mine base on what my priorities are at present...
Basic self preservation aside, just about everything I do, including taking care of myself, I do for the benefit of my family (again I am drawing a distinction between my wife and kids and my birth family).
For example, I stay healthy so my wife continues to find me attractive and so I can be a good role model for my son.
Does that make sense?
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Sure if makes sense, if you're a devoted family man.
For whatever reasons, I'm kind of a lone ranger in my life. I have myself, a boyfriend, a sister, one good friend locally and one good friend who moved out of state. There is nobody else to back me up or catch me if I fall except for those people. The choice of putting myself first has been spelled out to me very clearly. That also goes for my mental health and enjoyment of life. Nobody is going to drag me off to go do something fun, or make me be personally fulfilled and find meaning in my existence, if I don't get my own butt out of the house and do it for myself.
When my mother was alive, she spent the last 18 or 19 years of her life disabled, and I was the one who generally was there to help her. Not all the time, of course. I still had to balance that with "self" though. I guess I've had to deal with that issue a lot because of the family I've had.