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Originally Posted by Carn
Yeah, but the definition of selfishness is putting yourself before everything else; being chiefly concerned with yourself. If that is so, how can you say that putting yourself before everything is not being selfish?
I don't know about yall, but if I had to die so that anyone in my family could live, I would do it. Same with my friends. Well, close friends anyway. My friends are like brothers to me; they are like blood. Hell, even if it were not something so severe as death, I would put them above me. That's not to say I do whatever someone tells me to do, but for serious matters, if it were me or them, I would put them first.
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Nope, not me. None of my friends have ever meant so much to me that I would die for them. And I only have one family member left, and if it really came down to it my choice would be clear. The only person I've known who I think might have made that sort of sacrifice for me was my mother, she's dead now though. (Not for that reason!) Are you seriously saying you'd literally die for your friends, or is it a metaphorical thing?
As for putting yourself first, of course that's being selfish. That's how we stay alive, like when we don't walk in front of trains and stuff. Seriously though, a certain degree of selfishness is not only inherent in human nature, it's necessary to survive. Our ancestors didn't make it through by sacrificing their lives, did they?
To me putting self first is a no-brainer. My dilemma was in putting lover before family, and where to put money and friends. It does make it simpler when you only have one family member. If my mother was still alive family would have come before lover.