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My first Marriage was a mirror to your current situation, and I felt in the first years that I was enlightened enough to accept the relative frigidity of this relationship, and attempted to understand the underlying cause of her lack of desire. I failed. By the third year I found myself holding much against her, and had lost all desire to "Try" to get her involved. We had a final confrontation which was quite heated and forced her to admit to some pretty severe sexual hangups, after which she told me she was "willing to do her wifely duty".......we never made love again. We were divorced within a year, and in hindsight I see the lessons learned and the lack of health in the relationship.
Mind you....this is not YOUR situation, it was mine. I did learn much over the seven year marriage, should you wish for any further insight.
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Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha
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