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Old 02-14-2005, 11:35 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Marrek, I don't know what to tell you since I've been in the same situation and got stuck, too. However, I learned that it's best not to get involved as deeply as you have... the emotional strings get way too crossed and you make too much of everyone's feelings, including your own.

With all due respect, haven't you been staying so close to Maria not only because you loved her, but because you also wanted to keep your emotional foot in the door in case she wanted you back again? Maybe they're each not telling you something about their relationship, but why should they? You're not telling them the truth about your feelings for her either, are you? Fair's fair; it's their business, after all, and you are still just an accessory to their confusion right now.

Honestly my advice for you right now is to back off and let those two figure it out without getting caught in the middle. Keep your own emotions out of it and let them decide what to do. If Maria decides to stay broken up, then allow her to approach you... don't take advantage of her vulnerable state. Give her distance for now and let her heal properly (have you guys ever truly broken up, emotionally?). And let your friend do the same, if you truly care about both of them and don't want to get mixed up any more than you already are.

And you might just need that distance for your own heart as well...
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