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Averett · 02-14-2005, 05:47 AM

A few years ago, after a car accident, I couldn't really get around very well so I found myself in front of my computer. I would literally sit there for hours in chat rooms talking to people. In a way it was therapy for me. I didn't talk much to my friends about the accident and the resulting fallout, but I could talk about it to these complete strangers online.

Through the years I met some really great people. And some really not great people. Do I still talk to them all? Of course not. Just like I don't talk to anyone from high school. You grow up and soon you lose touch. I've got one friend who I've been talking to for nearly 4 years now. He's been a really great friend to me, and even though we don't hang out face to face on a regular basis, I don't consider him any less of a friend than people I see all of the time. In fact, I think he's a better friend than some people I've known for years. I did have the chance to go visit him twice, and I'm glad I did. I'm sure in the future if we have the chance we'll hang out again.

As most people know around here, I'm a part of one of those TFP couples. Sometimes I can get a bit weird about it. Since I've been here, I've seen quite a few TFP couples come and go. Some started strictly digitally. People proclaiming love and never having met face to face. That's just weird to me. But hey, to each their own right? With me, it didn't start out like that. It started out with an offer for a date, and I figured what the hell, why not. I didn't really talk to my boyfriend much before that, noticed his posts some but that was about it. So when that offer was on the table we started chatting and emailing back and forth. I didn't want to go spend the day with a complete stranger. And as we talked we got along well, and that date went great as well. And the rest is history I guess.

So what am I saying? Online relationships - friendships or romantic - can be just as valid as any other form of relationship.

02-14-2005, 05:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	A few years ago, after a car accident, I couldn't really get around very well so I found myself in front of my computer. I would literally sit there for hours in chat rooms talking to people. In a way it was therapy for me. I didn't talk much to my friends about the accident and the resulting fallout, but I could talk about it to these complete strangers online. Through the years I met some really great people. And some really not great people. Do I still talk to them all? Of course not. Just like I don't talk to anyone from high school. You grow up and soon you lose touch. I've got one friend who I've been talking to for nearly 4 years now. He's been a really great friend to me, and even though we don't hang out face to face on a regular basis, I don't consider him any less of a friend than people I see all of the time. In fact, I think he's a better friend than some people I've known for years. I did have the chance to go visit him twice, and I'm glad I did. I'm sure in the future if we have the chance we'll hang out again. As most people know around here, I'm a part of one of those TFP couples. Sometimes I can get a bit weird about it. Since I've been here, I've seen quite a few TFP couples come and go. Some started strictly digitally. People proclaiming love and never having met face to face. That's just weird to me. But hey, to each their own right? With me, it didn't start out like that. It started out with an offer for a date, and I figured what the hell, why not. I didn't really talk to my boyfriend much before that, noticed his posts some but that was about it. So when that offer was on the table we started chatting and emailing back and forth. I didn't want to go spend the day with a complete stranger. And as we talked we got along well, and that date went great as well. And the rest is history I guess. So what am I saying? Online relationships - friendships or romantic - can be just as valid as any other form of relationship. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.